“For everything you have missed, you have gained something else; And for everything you gain, you lose something else. It is about your outlook towards life. You can either regret or rejoice.” -Unknown
Keep this in mind when you are thinking of the gains and losses in your life. When you regret what you have gained in your life, it is hard for you to see the value of the person or thing that is before you. This will cause you to misuse that person or thing improperly to where the they can set you back versus move forward in your life. When you rejoice over what you have gained in your life, you will start to unlock the true value of that person or thing that is front of you. This will cause you allow that person or item to fulfill their purpose in your life, and you will gain the knowledge and momentum necessary to feel good about moving forward in your life.
E. Benard Jordan reminded me in one of his books that in order to gain something new, you have to be willing to lose something old. I value this statement because it has true meaning when it comes the ebb and flow of life.
It reminds me of my two children, Speranza and Bordeaux. Although Speranza is not with us due to a miscarriage, she was truly a gift because she resembled hope for a couple who did not think they could ever had a child. Although I still carry her box and speak to her daily, the gift that she left behind for us was the hope and encouragement that my wife and I could try again.
In order for us to do so, we had to lose our fears of failing and having another miscarriage. Not an easy task for sure, but the bigger gift came six months later when we found out that we were having another child! Through the help of our Italian doctor, guidance from our Italian translator, and encouragement from family and friends, we were able to bring into the world our second child, Bordeaux, who continues to impress us daily.
Although I miss Speranza, whom will never be forgotten, I had to be willing to let her go to in order for Bordeaux to be here. If I had chosen to regret any part of it, I would not have not only missed out on Speranza’s true meaning, but Bordeaux may not have been apart of my life. Instead of having regret, I rejoice daily in both of my kids because they represent the hope (Speranza) and spirit (Bordeaux) that I carry inside of me to not only live my life, but to inspire you as well to do great things.
How your gains and losses will impact your life comes down to how you view them. You cannot stop the process of gaining and losing people and things in your life, but you can choose to regret the changes and wind up setting yourself back, or you can choose to rejoice in the changes and use them to make yourself better. Let’s remember that no gain in your life comes without you taking a loss, but it is you that determines how that gain and how that loss will impact your future.
-Michael J. Fite