What Is Your Silence Trying To Tell The World?

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“The silence speaks; listen to what I didn’t say today.” Rachel Wolchin

Keep this in mind when you are trying to understand what silence is truly trying to say.

The reality is that silence often times speak for us whenever we do not have the words for a certain situation. The hard part about the silence is that we truly never know what the silence means on the surface.

For today’s inspiration, we will look at the following:

  • What is silence?
  • What goes wrong with silence?
  • What is your silence trying to tell the world?
  • What are the answers to silence?

Now that we have the questions, let’s find the answers!

What is silence?

Merriam-Webster has defined silence for us as:

  • A lack of sound or noise.
  • A situation, state, or period of time in which people do not talk.
  • A situation or state in which someone does not talk about or answer questions about something.

With silence, it is total quietness from a person. When a person is silent, you will not get anything verbal out of them.

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What goes wrong with using silence?

We all are capable of using our silence to our benefit, but two things go wrong with that:

  1. The silence is misunderstood or misinterpreted by others.
    • People will try to assume and think that a person is saying something with the silence, but have no clue what the true meaning behind the silence may be.
  2. The silence is unwelcomed or unwanted by others.
    • The silence comes at a time where people do not want or need the person to be quiet about their thoughts and feelings.

Both of these factors can cause a lot of miscommunication and anger among people.

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What is your silence trying to tell the world?

Your silence is trying to tell the world something today. The world may not quite know what you mean, but we are going to try to help them out. Seth Ellsworth has a list of 20 possible things you may be saying to someone when your silence is speaking for you. I will list them below, but you can check out his article by click on the link below:

Silence is Loud: 20 Things You Say When You Say Nothing At All

  1. I’m speechless. I’d rather stare at you because the depths of your beauty are infinite and the words that I would say wouldn’t even scratch the surface.
  2. The value of that which I am about to speak is not worth the time and effort associated with speaking it.
  3. I am not ready to tell you what I am actually dying to tell you.
  4. You are not ready to hear what I am actually dying to tell you.
  5. I’m too ignorant to explain it.
  6. You’re too ignorant to understand what I’m about to say.
  7. The timing isn’t right.
  8. The timing is too good and I’m a chicken liver.
  9. I don’t have enough time.
  10. I am thinking so many things that it’s a veritable impossibility to speak them all, so in silence I remain. The classic paralysis by analysis.
  11. I’m just not any good with words so I’d rather you guess what the heck I’m thinking and I’ll tell you if you’re hot or cold. (A silent invitation to play 20 questions).
  12. If you’re a girl, your silence is because you assume that the dude can and has read your subtle ‘signals’. He should know what you’re thinking anyways.
  13. I’m boring.
  14. You’re boring.
  15. I’m too tired and I don’t want to talk about it.
  16. You talk too much and I need a break.
  17. I’ve talked for the last hour straight. It’s your turn.
  18. You have something in your teeth and I’m too embarrassed to tell you.
  19. This date is over.
  20. I just passed some mean gas and I don’t want anyone to think it was me so I keep my mouth shut, or plug my nose and keep my mouth open so I can breathe.

I am sure there is more you can say through your silence, but when you think of just these 20 answers, it is amazing to see how a closed mouth can speak on your behalf.

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What are the answers to silence?

In order to answer this question, we need to look at it two-fold:

How can you help someone find the answers to your silence?

To help someone find the answers to your silence, you will need to these two important things:

  1. Look at and understand your own silence.
  • When you can see and understand your silence, you can begin the process of helping someone understand.
  • Acknowledge whenever you give your silence to someone.
  • Start looking at yourself when you give your silence to someone.

2. If you think that someone may misunderstand your silence, offer to translate it.

  • Do not be afraid to give a verbal or physical answer to someone if you think that they are going to take your silence the wrong way.
  • Allow them the opportunity to ask questions about your silence so that they can learn why you are silent in certain situations.
  • When you are able to translate your silence through your words and actions, it will help people to understand your silence a lot better.

How can you find the answers to someone else’s silence?

In order for you to find the answers to someone else’s silence, you must do this one very important thing:

  1. Do not assume…research.
  • It is easy to assume a blank stare or a frown, but it is important to find out the cause of the silence.
  • You can do this through asking questions and looking at the situation that they are in.
  • When you do your research, you will become prepared to understand the answers that come from the silence of another person.

The answers to the silence will amaze us, but we got to do what it takes to get the answers.

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I encourage you to look at your own silence, and really think about what your silence is trying to tell the world. The answers are being given, but does the world know how to get the answers? It is up to you to help the world understand what your silence means, or else you will always be misunderstood and labeled as difficult or hard to understand. Let’s remember silence offers answers when words or actions do not, so take the time to gain understanding of the silence or else the answer will remain silent.

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I have a few questions to ask you in which I would love for you to give some thought. Feel free to answer and comment below:

  • Can you recall a moment where your silence spoke louder than your words or actions?
  • What was the answer your silence gave to the world?
  • How did your silence impacted the people in that moment?
  • What advice would you give to someone who is trying to understand the answers that silence can offer?

Your answers and comments can help yourself or someone else understand this important question:

  • What is your silence trying to tell the world?

-Michael J. Fite

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I am a husband, father, life coach, motivator, and sailor wrapped into one guy with one mission in mind: To bring you the motivation and inspiration one post at a time!

20 thoughts on “What Is Your Silence Trying To Tell The World?

  1. I agree, silence is a means of communication and there is just as much chance that it can be misunderstood as there is with words that are not heard. Communication is a beautiful thing when it happens! 😉 xoM

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  2. Great post.. we can assume the wrong thing when silence is present. You know what they say about assume!

    One makes an ASS of U andME.

    I try not assume because ..well one cant guess whats going on inside another.

    I love silence … i wrote a post on it ages back… i think its called silent & silence.

    I think in silence one can fix one self.

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  3. I’m a dog trainer, and animals have taught me the most about silence. I use positive training techniques based on reinforcement. I use a clicker as a mark that the action I am looking for has been performed and then give a treat. More than scolding or even gentle correction, just withholding the sound and keeping my body language neutral signals to the animal that they have not yet achieved the goal. The same can be said in interactions with people. Often our body language fills in the blanks for what we do not say. A smile or some other gesture can let the other person know that it is not a negative silence (or on the contrary a gesture can show that it is an unhappy silence). But silence without gestures can leave a void that keeps someone thinking, “I haven’t hit the mark yet…I should keep trying.” My earliest memory of this is as a child in the classroom when the teacher needed the class to be quiet. Rather than try to talk over us or command our silence she would just quietly wait and look at us. Her silence was a signal that something more was expected.

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    • Thank you for you comment and insight F1! As a fellow dog trainer, I also see how the dogs are often using silence to communicate with their owners. Our silence can help people understand us as long as we can help someone understand your non verbal/physical communication.

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  4. This post definitely made me think, I would definitely agree that silence is louder than words at some points. When a friend asked me a question and I stared at them back in silence, I believe they got the answer they were looking for or at least knew how I felt.

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  5. The power of silence.
    When I go up on stage, as Public speaker. I am always quiet 5-10 seconds. This is for people to be able to take in, me and my energy. I’m shaking because I was born with cerebral Palsy. The audience does not know what they can expect. When it gets quiet in the room. Not for the long silence, but just right. Then and only then. I start talking. There is such magic with this SILENCE.

    I like the way you express yourself. It gives the reader the opportunity to change attitudes. Ability to perceive life in a new way. In your life story, people tried to silence you, but your blog and life show something completely different .

    Good luck with everything you take for you in life

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    • Thank you for your comment, insight, and encouragement Mikaelavatar! I personally like your strategy of being quiet for 5-10 seconds because it allows for you set things right in all phases. I am thankful that you appreciate my style of writing because I strive to be able to connect with everyone and give a chance to think and share. I think through sharing, we all learn together. I value your comments and appreciate you a lot!

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