How Do You Overcome The Fears Of Others?

“Don’t give up just because of what someone said. Use that as motivation to push hard.” -Kushandwizdom

Keep this in mind whenever you find yourself surrounded by voices of doubt and fear. When you decide to let those words creep into your mind and cause you to give up, it is hard to come back from it because you now have embodied those words of doubt and fear. Once you have that inside of you, it causes you to remain in your comfort zone and you will always be left with wondering “what if” and “should I” when it comes to the unknown. When you decide to take those words as motivation to push harder, you will find yourself developing the toughness and desire necessary to make things happen.

I have seen that the sources of these words come from people who falls into three categories:

1. They never tried it themselves: They look at you doing something new or different that is unfamiliar to themselves because they never had they opportunity to do it or because they never had to go through it. They think that because they never tried it, you should not try it too.
2. They have tried and failed: They look at you doing something new or different that they have tried themselves before, but did not have a positive experience for whatever reason. They think that because they tried and failed, you will too.
3. They saw someone else try and failed: This may be the worst of the three because this person has inherited their fears from either seeing someone else fail or someone telling them they would fail. They choose to spread that path in your direction to deter you from trying something new or different.

I have experienced these three categories as an investor and a motivator. As an investor, I have had people come to me to say that I should not invest because it is a game of chance and because they have either failed or knew of someone had failed at it. As a motivator, I have seen where people will look at me to say I am crazy for suggesting a tool or trick that they never had tried before, failed at executing, or saw someone else failed at executing.

Instead of letting the words deter me from trying, I continue on because my mission is to defy logic (better known as our comfort zone or common knowledge). As an investor and as a motivator, I have defied that logic by pushing myself harder, believing in myself, applying the appropriate actions to achieve good things in my life. As an investor, I have been able to enjoy success investing in stocks, peer-to-peer loans, and land. As a motivator, I have been able to inspire people through defying the logic of others and giving them the uniquely crafted tools to help them succeed in their own ventures.

You can do whatever you want in life as long as you do not give up just because someone says you should. The successful people you see if your life today, such as Venus Williams and Barack Obama, are perfect examples of people who hear it the words of fear and giving up from people but use it as motivation to overcome and succeed. If they can do it, so can you. Let’s remember that you cannot go anywhere letting other people’s fears take control of your life; you can only go places when you use it as motivation and take control of your life.

-Michael J. Fite