What Are Five Questions You Must Ask In Deciding Whether To Let Someone Step In To Save You Or To Fight Until You Cannot Anymore?

“A fighter who gets back up from getting knocked down wants to continue can either be saved or be allowed to continue the fight. No matter what you or the person in your corner may decide, you must live with the decision and the consequences.” -Michael J. Fite

Keep this in mind whenever you or someone else you know decides to get back up and want to fight.

Ever see a person get knocked down in a fight, and they get back up wanting to continue the fight? Two things usually happen with that person:

  1. Someone will step in to prevent that person from getting hurt.
  2. That person will fight on until he/she cannot fight no more.

Whether you call this ignorance or bravery, this a case where you have you ask yourself the following about your life:

  • What would happen if you get knocked down and try to get up to fight some more?

The answer to this question will vary from situation to situation, and there is no true way to know for sure what the right choice will be until you are faced with each situation respectively and you make a choice.

Today’s inspiration is to give you information about your options and give you five questions that can help you decide what you or the person deciding on your behalf should do regarding the fight that you want to continue.

So, I want to ask you what would you do if you wanted to continue the fight? Here are your two options:

Option #1: Have someone step in to prevent you from getting hurt.

This option is there if you are not able to rationally make the decision for yourself. Here are some positives and negatives to this option:

Positives:

  1. It saves you from further harm or damage.
  2. It gives you a change to walk away.
  3. It shows you that someone cares about your well-being.

Negatives:

  1. You will never know what can happen or could have happened if you had chosen to continue.
  2. You may find yourself disliking the person or people who stepped in on your behalf.
  3. You find yourself not finishing on your own terms.

Although you may have been saved from potential disaster, you may feel like the situation is far from done if you did not make the decision yourself.

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Option 2: Fight on until you cannot fight anymore.

This option is there if you feel like there is still some fight left inside of you. Here are some positives and negatives to this option:

Positives:

  1. It allows for you keep on battling for what you believe in.
  2. You show people your toughness in the midst of adversity.
  3. It gives you the chance to potentially overcome and win.

Negatives:

  1. You could hurt or embarrass yourself even further.
  2. People may find you to be crazy or insane to continue a losing battle.
  3. You could still lose the fight.

Although you may have a chance to still win the fight, it is still possible that you could be facing a losing battle regardless of how much you continue to fight.

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Will you allow for someone to step in to save you or will you continue to fight until you cannot anymore?

Based on the situation, it is never an easy answer to give because there are plenty of ifs involved. There will be times where you should let someone step in, and there will be times where you should continue the fight. There will be times where this decision needs to be made immediately, and there will be times where you have time to think about this decision. Instead of telling you what I think you should do, I want to offer five questions for you and/or the person helping you to make the decision to consider as you are deciding what you should do if you decide to get back up…

  1. Is it worth fighting for?
    • You or that person must decide if the person or thing you are fighting for worth is worth risking your life for.
  2. What will people think about me if I should fight on or quit?
    • There will be people who will look at the decision and label you accordingly, so that is something you or that person must take into consideration.
  3. Is there still a chance I can win?
    • You or that person must decide if there is still a chance that you can win the fight that you are in.
  4. What will people think of me if I should win, lose, or draw?
    • This is also something you or the other person must think about considering that people will also use the end result of the fight to determine your character.
  5. Can you live with the decision and outcome that could come as a result?
    • You must realize that once the decision is made, you and/or the person making the decision must live with what was decided and the consequences that will follow.

In answering these five questions, you and/or other person can decide whether or not to step in to save you or let you continue the fight.

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Let’s remember that when you and/or the person in your corner have to make the decision to save you from or continue the fight, the winning decision is the one that you and/or the person in your corner can make and live with the consequences.

In the question section, I want you to give thought to the questions above as well as the questions below. Feel free to comment and answer below:

  1. Can you recall a moment where you found yourself in a personal battle where you got back up and decided you want to fight on?
  2. Did you continue the fight or were you saved from future damage?
  3. What prompted the decision that was made?
  4. What were the consequences and were you able to live with the them?
  5. Looking back at the moment, would you have done anything different?
  6. What would you recommend to someone who get back up and decides to try to fight on?

Your answers and comments can help yourself or someone else gain clarity on trying to make the best decision on deciding whether to save or fight on.

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2 thoughts on “What Are Five Questions You Must Ask In Deciding Whether To Let Someone Step In To Save You Or To Fight Until You Cannot Anymore?

  1. Interesting – I suppose those would be good questions if there were time to ask them. However, in most real fights, you should fight and never give up, to preserve your own life. If the other person comes along then they can help, but never count on being saved. This will all take the space of a few seconds with little time to think. Instead, do all your worrying ahead of time so you can defend yourself unreservedly when you are faced with the situation.

    (I’m talking only about actual fights, such as on the street, where someone is actually trying to harm or kill you. Not sports or verbal “fights.”)

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    • Thank you for your comment and insight Rohvannyn! I love your comment because you are correct when it comes to most real fights. It can be difficult for the person in the fight to make that decision which is why you find someone else that may step in to prevent them from being hurt even more. Even in some street fights you will see this scenario come up, and all you can hope is that the person or the person who makes the call does what is fair to the person that is in the fight. I like your comment because it promotes very good discussion!

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