Can You Judge A Book By Its Covers?

“Never judge book by its covers unless you are willing to read the pages between them.” Michael J. Fite Keep this in mind whenever you think you know a person’s situation from simply what you see. When you judge only by what you can see, you wind up creating an easy plus, but a hard minus at the same time. On one hand, you may get an early preview of what you need to know, but on the other hand, you miss out on getting to know the person or thing that may prove to be valuable in your life. When you decide to get to know someone or something through listening, learning, and understanding,  you gain a better feel of that person or thing, and there is a chance that you gain someone or something that may be valuable to your life. My mother always tell me that I have always been the person who will befriend anyone regardless of

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Why Should You Be Active Versus Passive About Life?

“Begin while others are procrastinating. Work while others are wishing.” -William Arthur Ward Keep this in mind when you are wondering what is the difference being passive and being active. When you are passive in your life, you spend time procrastinating and wishing that you could do something, but not doing anything to change your situation. This will cause you to miss out on opportunities and cause you to feel resentment towards other people and life. When you are active in your life, you actually begin to and work towards bringing the change that you desire in your life. This will cause you feel in control, and you start to see things move around you. I remember growing up how I was passive about talking to and dating women. I would wish and dream about it, but never took action. I will admit that it did cost me the opportunity of getting to know women and dating during high school.

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Why Should You Try If You Are Going To Fail?

“Try and fail…but don’t fail to try.” -Sohaib Uddin Khan & Habil Guya Keep this in mind whenever you are fearful of failing at anything in life. If you never try anything, how do you know what you are capable of doing in life. When you do try, you will encounter failures along the way, but the beauty is that you can get up from those failures, learn from them, and improve so that you can succeed in anything that you do in life. I remember when I was presented with the opportunity to invest in stocks in 2003. I knew that I wanted to do it since high school when I did fantasy stock market games and did well. I was faced with opposition from people because of their fears that I would lose money and that it was not meant for me to be apart of. I could have listened to them, but I probably would be left

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Do You Succumb Or Overcome Your Fears?

“He who has overcome his fears will truly be free.” -Aristotle Keep this in mind when you faced with your fears and you are trying to figure out what to do. If you let your fears overrule your life, you will never try nor accomplish anything in your life. This can lead to you to have regrets about things and resentment towards people who achieve or talk you out of trying anything. If you learn to overcome your fears, you will realize that you can achieve anything that you put your mind to and try. This can lead you to have confidence in yourself and the strength to endure any obstacle that you can face. When I left for the military in 2006, I had two fears. The first fear was that I would not make it because I could not swim well. The second fear was that my wife was probably going to leave me because I left to

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Are You The Ant Or The Grasshopper?

“Never waste your time. Always be prepared for the days of necessity.” -Johora Papri Keep this in mind when you find yourself with free time on your hands. Every minute that you have is precious, so you want to use your time wisely for when tough times may come up. When you choose to waste you time, you waste money, opportunity, ideas, and a lot of other things that can be of benefit to you when such times come, but now they are not there because you wasted the chance to acquire them. In watching the video, The Ant and the Grasshopper, it reminds me of my wife and I. I do find myself as the ant who uses every minute to find ways to plan, acquire, and make things happen in anticipation for whatever life brings. My wife, the grasshopper, will take frequent breaks and do not feel the need of preparing and storing for anything. The beauty of

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Are You The Passenger Or Driver Of Your Life?

“There are two primary choices in life; to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” -Denis Waitley Keep this in mind when you are faced with situations that leave you with these two options. In choosing to accept conditions as they exist, you are allowing for other people and things to dictate what happens in your life while you take a passive and helpless stance. When you do that, you become a spectator to the point that you never know when you should step in to take control of your life. When you do accept your role as the person that must change the conditions, you go from allowing other people and things to take control of your life to you being the one that makes the moves and changes things in your life for the better. That will make you feel like the driver of your life versus being a passenger. I remember prior

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Do You Take The Advice Of Your Fears Or Your Confidence?

“Do not take counsel of your fears.” -George S. Patton Keep this in mind when you are faced with how you are going to deal with your fears. As strong as your mind may be, if you take the advice of your fears, you will find yourself quitting and never trying anything new. When you choose to go against that same advice and listen to your confidence, you can overcome your fears and move towards accomplishing your goals and dreams. In moving out on my own for the first time with my wife, when we were dating at the time, I was presented with a situation that had me wondering. She had shared with me that she had quit her job and that the job she was hoping to get did not come through, which left her without any money to put towards the rent for the first month. As you can imagine, the inner fears were creeping in, and

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Are You An Excuse Maker Or a Action Maker?

“If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.” -Unknown Keep this in mind whenever you are deciding how important something or someone may be to you to accomplish or have. When you find yourself not believing that you can or not wanting to do or try something, you will find an excuse that will get you out of it. The results for doing this is that you remaining in your comfort zone, never reaching your potential, and always wondering after the fact if maybe you missed your opportunity. When you find yourself valuing the thing or person that you want, you will look at every way possible to acquire what you need and actually do what it takes to get it. The results for doing this is that you will start to make progress in your life, always opening yourself up for new opportunities, and things and people will attract themselves

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What Is Stopping You From Reaching Your Dreams?

“The only thing that stops you from reaching your dream, is you.” -Jindavil Keep this in mind whenever you are trying to figure out why you have not reached the goals and dreams you have envisioned for yourself. It is easy to point the finger at other people and things, but the reality is that nobody can affect or stop you unless you give them the power to. In addition, whenever you find yourself doubting your own goals and dreams, it is very likely that you will stop yourself from realizing them. Growing up, I had a cousin who had dreamed of becoming a wrestler one day. We would watch wrestling, talk about wrestling, and even practiced the moves from time to time. As of today, he has not yet realized his potential of becoming that wrestler he had envisioned. It is easy to blame family members who may have doubted him, or the circumstances that he was faced with,

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How Do You Become The Expert?

“The expert in anything was once a beginner.” -Unknown Keep this in mind whenever you are trying to figure out how did a person become good at what they are doing in life. Experts are not exactly born from the womb, nor do they pop out of thin air. To be the expert at anything, you have to become a beginner and start learning. Through learning, planning, action, and adjustments along the way, you start to refine your craft until you eventually become an expert yourself. I can remember growing up wanting to have a successful marriage, but could never figure it out because there were not a lot of them for me to see. In order for me to accomplish this, I had to be a beginner through learning what is the model of a successful marriage from both my uncle and mentor, who both still long and successful marriages.  By asking questions and watching them, I came up

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