What Are Five Steps Towards Lifting Your Personal Ban Against Yourself?


“The worst ban you can place is on yourself. You may think you are protecting yourself from harm, but you are just preventing yourself from exploring and realizing your true potential.” -Michael J. Fite

Keep this in mind when it comes to understanding the dangers of placing a ban on yourself.

It is easy to ban or prevent yourself from doing or being apart of anything that you may consider to be unsafe, harmful, or dangerous. On one hand, you are playing safe because you are avoiding risks and staying in your comfort zone. On the other hand, you are keeping yourself from learning what life has to offer and seeing what you are fully capable of.

Today’s inspiration is about the ban that you have on yourself. We will take a look at the following:

  • What is a ban?
  • What can cause you to place a ban against yourself?
  • What is your personal ban holding you back from?
  • How can you lift your personal ban against yourself?

Now that we have the questions, let’s find the answers!

What is a ban?

Merriam-Webster defines a ban as:

  • To forbid people from using (something).

  • To say that something cannot be used or done.

  • To forbid (someone) from doing or being part of something.

The goal of a ban is to stop or prevent something from happening.


What are three things that can cause you to place a personal ban against yourself?

As mentioned earlier, it is easy to place a personal ban against yourself being and experiencing more in life. Here are three things about yourself that can cause you to do it:

  1. Your fears and doubts.

    • When you are afraid and worried about someone or something that could harm you or put you in harm’s way, you will give yourself a personal ban against that person or thing.
  2. Your lack of knowledge.

    • Your lack of understanding about someone or something can cause you to place your personal ban against yourself when you are faced with the following:
      • When you have no desire to learn about something that is new or could change everything that you have come to know over time.
      • When you truly do not know what the future will bring when it comes to a person or thing.
  3. Your personal beliefs.

    • Anyone or anything that can say or do something that can alter what you believe in religiously, personally, or professionally can cause you to place a personal ban against yourself so that you do not have to hear it.


What are five things that your personal ban holding you back from?

Also mentioned earlier, your personal ban is keeping you back from learning what life has to offer and seeing what you are fully capable of. Here are five things that you are missing out on as a result of your ban:

  1. Personal growth.

    • Your personal ban is keeping you from experiencing life, making mistakes, and learning how to overcome in order to grow as a person.
  2. Friendships and relationships.

    • Your personal ban is preventing you getting to know total strangers that may ultimately wind up being your next friend, lover, or life partner.
  3. Employment.

    • Your personal ban may be holding you back from going after a job that could be everything that you need to make to happy and satisfied.
  4. Wealth.

    • Your personal ban is blocking you from doing what it takes to become financially secure in your life.
  5. The future.

    • Your personal ban will not allow you move forward and deal with what is next in your life.


What are five steps towards lifting your personal ban against yourself?

If you have a personal ban against yourself, it is time to lift that ban right now! Here are five steps as to how you can make it happen:

  1. Understand why you have your personal ban in the first place.

    • If you are going to lift your personal ban, you must first fully comprehend it.
    • You can do this through research and asking people who have similar bans on life as you do.
  2. Look to finding ways to lift your personal ban.

    • Once you know what your personal ban is all about, the next step is for you to find ways to lift your ban.
    • You can use your research to help you find a way and establish a plan that will help you lift your personal band.
  3. Have faith.

    • With your plan in place, it is time for you to place faith and confidence  in yourself and higher power to face what is front on you.
    • You can say it verbally, write it down, or even meditate about it until your mind is trained to believe in what you are about to do.
  4. Lift your personal ban.

    • With your plan and confidence in place, it is time to lift your personal ban.
    • Simply move forward and do not look back at the people and things that helped you to place that ban on yourself in the first place.
  5. Do not be afraid of what the future will hold.

    • Now that your personal ban is lifted, do not let fears, doubt, or sabotage make you have to place another personal ban against yourself.
    • You can do this by allowing the experiences to shape, mold, and teach you without any interference from you or anyone else.


I encourage you to take a moment to see how a personal ban has affected your life. For whatever reason why you had the personal ban, understand that you cannot always ban yourself from experiencing what life has to throw at you because when you do, you will miss out on the opportunities and experiences that were meant for you to go through and grow from. Let’s remember that the only way you are going to move forward is to lift your personal ban and never look back.


I have a few questions that I would love for you to give some thought. Feel free to answer and comment below:

  1. Can you recall a moment where you had placed a personal ban against yourself?
  2. Why did you place the personal ban against yourself in the first place?
  3. Did you choose to keep or lift the personal ban against yourself?
    • If you decided to keep the personal ban, why?
    • If you decided to lift the personal ban, why and how did you do it?
  4. How has your life been since the moment you decided to either keep or lift the personal ban against yourself?
  5. When you look back at the personal ban, would you have placed that ban against yourself if you had to do it again?
  6. What would you recommend to someone who is dealing with their own personal ban?

Your answers and comments can help yourself and someone else understand how to lift the ban that you have placed upon yourself.


I am a husband, father, life coach, motivator, and sailor wrapped into one guy with one mission in mind: To bring you the motivation and inspiration one post at a time!

3 thoughts on “What Are Five Steps Towards Lifting Your Personal Ban Against Yourself?

  1. This post hit me hard today. Today was the first day back to school (teaching) and nothing related to blogging crossed my mind all day. I’m wondering whether I’ve started to ban myself from continuing the blog…barely had time to eat today. I thought its not possible because xy and z. Guess I need to stop that kind of thinking.

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    • Thank you for your comment and insight Polkadotblonde! You never want to ban yourself from expressing your thoughts through your blog because it serves as an outlet for you to share your thoughts to the world. I look forward to you freeing yourself from your ban and releasing your thoughts through your blog!


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