What Are Five Steps You Can Take To Set The Standard For Yourself And Get Respect From Other People?

I want to start off with a quote from an unknown source.


“The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others on how you demand to be treated. Don’t settle for anything other than respect.” -Unknown

Keep this in mind whenever you wonder how much power you have over how people respect and treat you.

Everyone wants to be treated with respect, including you. There are times where you wonder why people treat you a certain way but two things can happen when you are not in control of your emotions and thoughts:

  1. The answers seem to elude you due to your own lack of knowledge or understanding.

  2. You choose to find some escape goat in the form of someone or something else as the reason why you are disrespected.

If you are doing either or both of the statements above, then it is time to take a look at the following questions below:

Why do people disrespect you?

There can be a long list of reasons why people can be disrespectful towards you. Here are three facts that help you begin to understand why people are disrespectful towards you in particular:

  1. People can assess and assume based off of what they hear and see about you.

  2. People are likely to repeat the negative behavior and actions that you do to yourself and other people.

  3. People will show disrespect towards you when they do not have the knowledge or insight on how to treat you.

You give people things and reasons to show you disrespect, but without understanding why for yourself, you cannot begin the process of fixing the issues that exist with yourself.


What standards do you have for yourself?

Your standards for yourself are always constantly changing as you navigate through your life journey. Here are three more facts that can help you understand your standards:

  1. The strength and power of your standards depends on your ability to create, apply, and maintain them constantly.

  2. Your standards must be realistic and make sense to you or else you will not live up to them.

  3. If you break or do not live up to your standards, you cannot expect anyone else to follow and live up to those same standards.

Your standards are what gives people the rules and guidelines to follow when it comes to dealing with you and treating you with respect.


What will happen when you live up to and hold people to your standards?

Living up to and holding people to your standards will definitely affect yourself and everyone who will come in contact with you. Here are three additional facts that can shed some light on what will happen when you do:

  1. Living up to and holding people to your standards will subtract people who cannot meet them and add people who can meet them.

  2. Living up to you own standards will attract people who will critique you and your own standards, but it will also attract the people and things you need in your life in order to grow and become successful.

  3. If people are willing to step up to the challenge, holding them accountable to your standards will give them an opportunity to be just like you or even better than you.

It is vital for you to live up to and hold people to your standards because you and they determine what your life is all about.


What are five steps you can take to set the standard for yourself and get respect from other people?

Before I begin telling you how you can do this, I must first tell you that there will be people who will continue to show you disrespect regardless of what you will do to gain their respect. I am telling you this not to discourage you from trying to gain respect, but to let you know that for some people, they will always find something new that they can disrespect you about.

Now, if you still believe that you can set the standard for yourself and get respect from other people like I do, here is how you can do it in five steps:

  1. Get to know yourself again.

    • Take the time to get to know yourself again by identifying your likes, dislikes, interests, beliefs, ideals, goals, and dreams.
    • Knowing these things about yourself gives you a starting point in setting your standards and getting respect from other people.
  2. Make your own standards geared towards where you want to be in your life.

    • Come up with standards that are easy for you to hold and that can help you accomplish the goals and dreams that you desire.
    • These standards will set the bar for how you will handle yourself.
  3. Live up to your standards.

    • Make it your top priority to adhere to the standards that you have laid out for yourself.
    • Living up to your standards will allow for you to show people two things:
      • Who and what you are.
      • Who and what you will allow in your life.
  4. Let your standards be known to other people.

    • Show and explain to people the answers to the following three questions:
      • How do you want to be treated?
      • Who and what you will allow in your life?
      • Who and what you will not stand for your life?
    • When people clearly know what your standards are, it gives them the insight and knowledge needed to treat you with respect.
  5. Do not accept disrespect of your standards from yourself or anyone else.

    • Do not stand by and allow for yourself to say or do anything that would cause your standards to be disrespected and unrecognized.
    • When you do not accept disrespect of your standards from yourself or anyone else, it gives your standards the strength and power to withstand any scrutiny.

If you follow these five steps, you will have created for yourself standards that will garner you respect from not only yourself, but from other people.


Let’s remember that if you want respect from other people, it starts with you respecting yourself and your standards while holding yourself and people to those same standards.

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In the question section, I want you to give some serious thought to the questions above and share your answers below. In addition, I want to ask you four questions below:

  1. What are your own personal standards when it comes to your life?

  2. What have you done to establish those standards in your life?

  3. How do you enforce your standards when it comes to other people?

  4. What would you recommend to someone who is trying to establish and  maintain his or her own personal standards?

Your answers and insight can help yourself and other people understand how important it is to set and respect your own standards so that other people can do the same.



I am a husband, father, life coach, motivator, and sailor wrapped into one guy with one mission in mind: To bring you the motivation and inspiration one post at a time!

10 thoughts on “What Are Five Steps You Can Take To Set The Standard For Yourself And Get Respect From Other People?

  1. What a great post. I’ve struggled with this recently. I thought it was “just me,” but now I understand that I expect everyone to treat me as I treat them and the truth is, people are who they are. Its not about me, its about them. Thanks for this.

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