“You are not a burden. You HAVE a burden, which by definition is too heavy to carry on your own.” -Unknown
Keep this in mind whenever you are face with moments where you do not want to be a burden on to others.
This is a situation that leaves people wanting to carry their own load versus allowing someone or something to help. We will explore into why it is so and how to find ways to ease the load, but first, we must define what it means to carry.
What does carry mean?
Merriam-Webster defines carry for us as:
To move (something) while holding and supporting it.
To contain and direct the flow of (water, electricity, etc.).
To have (something) with you or on your body.
To move simply requires us to take ourselves, someone, or something and be in control.
Why do it seem like we carry a lot more than we should?
This question has a lot of answers because it varies from person to person. Here are a few reasons:
- Nobody else can do it but you. There may be moments where it seems like nobody else can do the things you do, so you carry the load of burden and responsibility onto yourself.
- Being selfish versus sharing. You may think that it is easier to keep adding, taking, and keeping the load to yourself versus giving out some of it to other people so they can help.
- You may know your limits better than anyone else. You may know from past experience how strong you are and feel like you can carry the same load or even more than before.
- Maybe you do not know or trust anyone to carry your load. You may not know or have faith that someone can help carry the load with or for you simply because you did not ask or maybe they did not show you that they can do so.
Whatever your reason may be, it is important to know that no matter what is thrown at you by anyone or anything, it is your actions that determine the size of the load that you carry.
What should you carry if the load is too heavy?
If what you are carrying is too much, here are a few things you carry that can take ease the load off of your shoulders and mind.
- Faith and Confidence
- It shows your ability to believe and trust in someone or something to do what is necessary to help you carry your burdens and responsibilities.
- It can be scary, but if you do not have faith or confidence in their abilities, they cannot help you because you will sabotage with your fears.
- Your faith and confidence will allow you to step back and let your higher power (God, Allah, Buddha, etc.) and/or other people to do what is necessary to help you become successful.
- It shows people your ability to let go and let them in to help you deal with the burdens and responsibilities you face.
- Sharing can also be scary, but when you do not share, they cannot help you deal with the issues you face.
- Sharing will allow you to let people walk and talk with you so that they can help you carry on as a team versus by yourself.
- It shows people that you are genuine and that you are genuine and you are just as human as they are.
- It can be scary to let go of your pride and ego, but if you do not show humility, you will scare people off from helping you carry your load.
- Humility allows for people to relate with you and help you carry the load where you need it the most.
I encourage you to not be afraid to let other people help you carry your load. Although it is possible that people can fail you, you can also fail yourself as well. It is all about understanding that we cannot carry everything by ourselves and expect to be successful. Along the way, we all need help because we simply do not know it all. Let’s remember that breakdowns happen when you carry too much, so let someone help you carry some of the load that you can carry on as team to become successful.
I have a few questions to ask you, and I would love for you to give them some serious thought. Feel free to answer and comment below.
- What the heaviest load you had to carry in your life?
- What made that load heavy for you carry in your life?
- Did you carry the load by yourself or share it with someone else?
- What was the result of your actions?
Your answers can help yourself or someone deal with the main question as you or they face their current situation:
- How will you carry your own load?
-Michael J. Fite